HOW TO LET GO OF A RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOU ARE UNHAPPY

As humans we try to avoid change because it is unpredictable. We remain in relationships that are unhealthy due to fear of change or failure. Letting go of a relationship for whatever reason is one of the hardest things to do in life.

Naturally, one wants to believe that love will last forever. But when it doesn’t one must let go. The inability to let go of a relationship that is no longer evolving with the changes of time is very detrimental. Yet even more devastating, is the pain and suffering from not letting go of what is over and moving on with life.

When a relationship ends, one or both parties have the feeling of failure. However, it is important not to associate ones self-worth in life with the longevity of a relationship that probably was not meant to be in the first place. In order to let go, it is important to learn that self-worth does not evolve around another person but rather is enhanced by that person.

One of the most important things to remember in life is to stop wasting time clinging to unhappy relationships that can’t be changed. After all, wisdom is the knowledge of accepting the things that cannot be changed, the courage to change the things that can be changed and the insight to know the difference (Serenity Prayer).

TIMING IS EVERYTHIG WHEN IT COMES TO ENDING A RELATIONSHIP. KNOW THAT IT IS TIME TO LET GO WHEN…..

• When your partner is no longer willing to help support the realistic goals you set for yourself.

• If you are being abused, hurt, cheated on or lied to.

• If your partner is a shameless flirt, is bossy, demanding or has serious insecurity issues (In most cases some or all of these traits are interactive).

• If you feel a sense of relief at your partners departure.

IT IS EQUALLY IMPORTANT TO KNOW HOW TO END A RELATIONSHIP ONCE YOU DECIDE THE TIME HAS COME…

• Forgive either your spouse or yourself (or both) so that you can move on and be happy again.

• Unless you have children together, stop contacting that person.

• Go out on dates with others and try to enjoy yourself; taking note not to ramble on and on about your old spouse by any means (even when asked).

Do not, by any means, use your old spouse as a template for new relationships. It is very important not to be afraid to move on and explore new and different interactions with others. The fear of letting go of something or someone is enabling and can hinder you in every aspect of your life. Always remember my personal definition for fear and apply it to any situation in which you feel a sense of hopelessness. Fear is merely:

False


Evidence


Appearing


Real

~Tonya Jones